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The Great Purge of 2012

Posted on January 1, 2012 by phillynikongal • 0 Comments

So, right before the year became 2012, I decided to do a “cleanse.” A purge, if you will.

No, not what you think. I don’t have an eating disorder.

I unfollowed/blocked 30+ people on Twitter and I unfriended 40 or so people on Facebook.

The fundamental reasoning behind this was to try and start the new year off with only people who give me the time of day. And not because they want/need something from me.

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That being said, I might have unfriended/unfollowed/blocked you on whatever service it is that I mentioned above. Don’t necessarily take it personally, as I have no real hard feelings, I just didn’t want the clutter. There are a lot of things I don’t care about or care to read about. I don’t need to see you tweet on auto-pilot with the same link to the same articles/blog posts you posted weeks ago. If all you use Twitter for is to push your Foursquare posts to it, that’s fine, but I don’t want to see them in my feed. If you’re a photographer and all you post are links to OTHER work NOT done by your self, so long. And most importantly, if you preach about embracing social media and using it properly, and you can’t even reply to people who engage with you, than you’re doing it wrong, and being unfollowed.

I’ve also unfollowed/unfriended people that just piss me off. Which, actually, seemed to be a pretty substantial number. I don’t need negativity and drama in my life. And I am sure I am being a hypocrite when I say that, because I have a tendency to vent a lot of my frustrations over several networks, and I’m sure that people often get sick of my rantings as well. But I’d be remiss if I didn’t practice what I preach about deleting/blocking people who’s status posts I just don’t care about. You can block me, and I can block you too! That’s the beauty of Facebook really. If you’ve hidden someones posts, and that someone unfriends you, then you won’t even know it unless you go to send them a message or post on their wall.

The moral of the story here kiddos, is that I needed to clean house. Kudos to those who were fortunate to stay on the nice list. If you weren’t, well, then, email me or something. I may be able to tell you why.

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#reverb11 and #resound11 day twenty nine – let go

Posted on December 30, 2011 by phillynikongal • 0 Comments

(I had started to write this yesterday, but I didn’t get home until after 1am. In my defense, it’s still Thursday on the west coast…)

Wow, it’s hard to believe that December has gone by so fast! Two more days of #reverb11 et al, and it seems like it just started yesterday.

Today’s #reverb11/#resound11 prompt comes from Jaemie over at #resound11:

Letting go can be hard. We get comfortable in our current situation. We have a tendency to repeat the same behaviors and patterns even when we know they are not in our best interest. Sometimes we hold on to relationships, dreams, feelings, or stuff just because we can’t let go.

But letting go sometimes is what we need to do.

What did you let go of in 2011? What was the experience like? How is your life different today? Do you ever regret it?

If not, is there something that you need to let go of in 2012? What scares you about that possibility? What situation do you need to create for that to happen?

Hmm…

The majority of the last three and a half years, I would like to erase from my memory. One of my biggest mistakes in life (aside from my previous marriages) was moving back to Indiana.

Granted, there were a few good things that came out of being here. One, I wouldn’t have met and married Mr. Fox (although we’re convinced that we would have been brought together even if I didn’t come here, as we discovered we may have crossed paths before), and I wouldn’t have reconnected with an old friend from high school.

Unfortunately though, my time here in Indy has been filled with as much upset, if not more, than my time spent in Arizona. Which, previously, had been my other biggest mistake. I’ve been let down more times than I can count. I’ve been chewed up by people close to me that had no right to do so. I’ve lost friends over the stupidest things (though I suppose they were never friends to begin with). I’ve had my share of unsavory people enter and exit my life. I’ve put up with a bunch of crap.

A lot of my Indiana friends give me crap about my dislike for being here. Well, yeah, I hate it. I’m sorry if that offends people, especially those who have been there all their life. I am most definitely *not* a Hoosier. I may have lived here for a few years, but I absolutely don’t belong here.

I am Jersey born and Philly phlavored. And I can’t WAIT to let Indiana go. It shall be a painless break up.

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Filed Under: #resound11, #reverb11, Just Me